     | | ETTORE MAZZEI ~ CHEF, AUTHOR, AND WHOLE FOOD NUTRITIONIST Food Combining and Balancing Your pH What, When, and How to Eat? Exercise - Do What Feels Good! Experience All Five Senses Fully How Sex Can Emotionally and Physically Benefit Your Health And Much More ! |
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Chapter 16 ~ What's Your Addiction? "There is no love sincerer than the love of food." ~ George Bernard Shaw Most of you who read this book may get inspired to change your habits temporarily and eventually go back to your old ways. It's just how it is. Whether it's the ego protecting its identity, laziness or the "I'm going to enjoy my life as I want and nobody's going to tell me what to do" point of view. It could also be due to a backlog of failed attempts and fear of trying, and failing, again. Or maybe you just did not feel good when you tried change. For each mind there is a different version and I cannot discuss all six billion versions. Only you know your version. I hope I'm wrong about this. Please prove the statistics wrong. Please prove status quo wrong. Take a stand, rock life. The fact is that some people will never handle their addictions in this lifetime. Many die sad lives, addicted. I know good people with strong wills that are getting their ass kicked with their addictions. I say you can beat it with the 12 Wonders. Chapter 17 ~ Tips for Those Who Can't or Those Who Won't "Far better it is to risk mighty things even though checkered by failure than to live in that grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat." ~ Theodore Roosevelt Only read this if you can't or won't. If you are on your way and are doing and feeling great, skip this chapter please. This chapter is for us wild people that are either living it up, are undisciplined, out of control, depressed or just plain ole resistant. And that includes me. I get to let out my secrets in this chapter. LIMIT THE DAMAGE!!! Your body, the human body is miraculous. It can take so much abuse. Unfortunately, it will breakdown and stay weak if you do not give it frequent breaks. You can LIMIT THE DAMAGE even when you are on a roll, whether it be a let your hair down dinner, a wild night of partying, a run for the cookies and ice cream depression; I do not give a s@%*, or just a good ole plain state of unconsciousness. The tips, below, are based on what I feel are the most important ways of managing your health: Cleansing your body, keeping the pH in balanced in your body, allowing for maximum absorption of nutrients, working your heart and lymph systems, keeping your body hydrated and keeping the body, thoughts and emotions in balance. Still, I know this is all easier said, or written, than done. Since this chapter is dedicated to Those Who Can't or Won't, here's a place to start: Chapter 18 ~ Experience All Five Senses Fully "Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content." ~ Helen Keller When you experience all five of your senses fully, at all times, then you are making love to life. Feel, Taste, Smell, See and Listen. Remember your favorite love making experience. Feel ~ You touched your lover's skin, felt his body, you touched her wet, played with his hair. Taste ~ You kissed her, licked his whole body, licked her juices. Smell ~ You smelled his scent, smelled the candles and incense burning in the room, you smelled her perfume. See ~ You gazed into his eyes, admired her body, you saw the reflection of the candles burning, you watched each other in the mirror. Listen ~ You heard his or her moans of passion, you heard your bodies rubbing together, you heard the birds outside. Experience all five of your senses all the time. With this kind of passion and aliveness, enjoy your children, eat every meal, enjoy your career, enjoy your hobbies. Chapter 19 ~ Notice How Fast You Shut Down "There is no failure except in no longer trying." - Kin Hubbard What is shutting down? That is when you say f@%* you to someone close to you or someone you love. It can be said in many ways. It can be said directly before you storm out the door or you can clam up for a few days. It can be said in your mind: "F@%* you, she/he isn't all that wonderful anyway!" Or you may simply ignore someone, tune him or her out when you're walking or speaking. We can discuss hundreds of different versions. Chapter 20 ~ Is Your Life Filled With "Get to's" or "Have to's"? "Go ahead and unleash your wild side. Hasn't it been fettered for far too long? That's not healthy you know. So go ahead and cut loose. It's a jungle out there and you are an animal." ~ Source Unknown My Number One turn on, when I live full out, is being conscious. In the past I was often unconscious. For example, I would be in situations or places and I would look at my watch and say to myself, "When is this going to end?" In the last several years I have largely gotten rid of, "I can't wait until this is over!" Hoping to overcome my restlessness, I started inquiring into two questions: Is my life filled with "get to's" or "have to's"? A "get to" is something that you are doing in life that you really love and are passionate about. A "have to" is, exactly that, something that has become routine and you have to do it, another one of those problems that is all too easily justified. Chapter 21 ~ Sex is Sacred "Day and night I cannot keep you out of my thoughts; In the darkness, on an empty bed, the longing deepens. I dream of us holding hands, exchanging words of love." ~ Zen master Ikkyu Sojun In life there are many ways to attain wisdom, knowledge, freedom, power, and full self expression. Sex is one of them. I've said this several times and I'll say it again. Great sex is understood not by its capacity to fulfill our fantasies, but rather by its ability to so deeply absorb us that thinking is forgotten and we feel the perfection of ourselves, our partner and of life. Chapter 22 ~ Should I? / Shouldn't I? "A person who is a master in the art of living makes little distinction between work and play, labor and leisure, love and religion. To him he is always doing both." ~ A Zen poet Before doing something, ask yourself, "Will doing this make my life better? Will doing this make me give more to those that are important to me?" The Paradox in creating a magical life is that there is nothing to do because you are exactly the way you suppose to be right now... yet you have dreams that go beyond your life as it is, things that you want to accomplish that will change your future. Let life flow between these two poles. The magic lies in creating balance between them. I call them the Doing and Being poles. Doing is working hard, making all the plans for the family vacations, investing for your future and always planning your life. Being, to me, means relaxing and enjoying life in the moment it is happening. Chapter 23 ~ Can You Really Quiet the Mind? "When you think about it, we are really not here that long. Speak to someone in their 80's or 90's and they will reflect on the fact that they cannot believe how quickly life passed. Time slips through our fingers like grains of sand, never to return again. Today, live boldly, with passion, excellence, and love. Run towards the things that frighten you. Champion those around you. And dig deeper to allow more of who you truly are to see the light of day." ~ Robin Sharma There are so many different languages, terms, cultural nuances, and words to describe quieting the mind. For many it is spiritual in nature. It is called awakening, enlightenment, nirvana, collective consciousness and on and on and on. When it does happen you come in touch with everything and you see clearly at entirely new depths. It sounds cool and it is cool to experience, but once again it has to come from inside you, you have to feel it. There is nothing on the outside that will make this happen. Being open to love, totally present when you are with someone or doing something will eventually lead you to this higher state of living and hopefully - Wham !! You are enlightened. In the meantime - Just kick ass and live. Chapter 24 ~ Erotic Workouts and Erotic Play "Be creative, Be sensual, Be spontaneous, Be Alive ~ Why Not?" ~ D. Mazzei Remember being a child, with no fears or inhibitions about what to do to keep life fun and amusing? Sadly, we develop many fears as we grow up as a result of negative experiences, punishment, and all the times we hear: "Do not do this" and "Be careful about that." Give up the fears and give yourself permission to be that uninhibited, playful, adventurous child. This chapter is one in which you teach yourself. It is hands on. I will give you a few tips. Tip #1 : THE BEST TOY IS YOUR IMAGINATION !! Bonus Chapter ~ Seven Financial Rules for Success This chapter is for those who are interested in making money or for those who are interested in discovering why they have not yet made money. Money and Sex!! Now those two topics occupy much of our thoughts, to say the least. I hope you've acquired some insight into sex by reading this book. Now for money!! In my view, the simplest way to look at making money is by being a warrior. You must get off your butt and rock. Laziness plus fear is not the formula for making money.
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